Over the past couple of days, a few friends have asked me for investment “recommendations”. It is a familiar situation: someone is curious, anxious, hopeful, or simply looking for reassurance. And each time it happens, I remind myself of one principle that I treat as non-negotiable:
Never give anyone specific investment advice.
Not because investing is unimportant. Not because I do not care. But because giving concrete buy-or-sell instructions to another person almost always creates more harm than good.
The Uncomfortable Truth About Outcomes
Here is the reality that many people do not want to admit:
- If they make money, they will not share the profit with you.
- If they lose money, they may blame you for a very long time.
That imbalance alone should make anyone cautious. Even if your intentions are good, the emotional consequences are not shared fairly. Your “advice” becomes their excuse, their regret, or their resentment.
Good Companies Are Not Automatically Good Buys
People often think investment success is about finding “good companies”. Company quality matters, of course. But it is only one part of the equation.
In fact, the most important pillars of successful investing are usually:
- A good asset (what you buy)
- A good price (what you pay)
- Good timing (when you buy and when you sell)
Many well-known companies are excellent businesses. But even a great business can be a terrible investment if you buy at the wrong price.
For example, Microsoft, Google, NVIDIA, and Meta are all outstanding companies, but if you buy at the top of a bubble, you can still lose badly.
If someone buys at the peak of a bubble, they can still suffer painful losses. And when that happens, it will not matter how strong the company is “in the long run”. What they will remember is that you were the person who nudged them into it.
Timing and Price Are Personal, Not Universal
Even if you recommend a company that you genuinely believe is worth holding for years, the person following your suggestion may not share your time horizon, risk tolerance, or emotional discipline.
They might buy at a higher price than you ever would.
They might invest money they cannot afford to tie up.
They might panic when the price drops 10% or 20% in a week.
And this is crucial: even assets that are worth owning long-term can swing wildly in the short-term. Most people cannot hold through that kind of volatility. They sell at the worst moment, then feel cheated, angry, or humiliated.
If your suggestion contributed to that decision, it is very easy for the blame to land on you.
A Better Way to Help
Refusing to give specific advice does not mean refusing to help. It simply means shifting the conversation to things that are actually useful and less damaging, such as:
- discussing investment principles rather than tickers
- encouraging them to understand risk and position sizing
- reminding them to think in probabilities, not certainties
- helping them avoid emotional decisions
- urging them to do their own research and take responsibility
Because in investing, responsibility cannot be outsourced. If someone cannot own their decisions, they are not ready to act on someone else’s “recommendation” either.
Final Thought
So yes, I will say it again, as clearly as possible:
Do not give anyone specific investment advice.
You may be right about the company. You may even be right about the long-term direction. But if they enter at the wrong time, at the wrong price, and with the wrong mindset, the outcome can still be ugly—and the relationship might pay the price.
In the end, protecting friendships is often more valuable than being “right” about a stock.

